In my previous relationship I wasn’t used to talk about what bothered me.
Or at least I didn’t speak about everything.
I thought it was a proof I was strong.
Some thoughts seem to be silly and tiny at the beginning but if we decide to hide them they can grow much bigger in the dark corners of our mind.
When we don’t speak
We need to talk to each other so we can understand each other.
Nobody can see what is happening in your head neither your partner.
You have questions, you are suspicious – something stands between you and your partner.
It is not Iraq or Syria, your head is the biggest battleground in the world. Maybe it’s embarrassing but it’s YOU who feel the pain.
Don’t let the demons of bad feelings in your head make you see the world constantly in the haze.
“You don’t have to cheat to lose your girl. You can lose your girl from lack of communication, attention and disrespect. It’s not all about what you do, sometimes it’s about what you DON’T do.”
So do and speak if it bothers you.
Listen, communicate, have empathy and make compromises.
This is what good and long lasting relationships are about.
Listening is the first duty of love
The first duty of love is to listen. Paul Tillich
Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone. Unknown
Honor your relationships by developing listening skills. Allan Lokos
Do not listen with the intent to reply, but with the intent to understand. Unknown
Listen, speak and listen again. Your ears have value, learn to use it. Unknown
You can ask “why” all you want, but it doesn’t mean a damn thing if you’re not listening to the answer. Unknown
Listen with your heart, you will understand. Pocahontas
A child seldom needs a good talking to as a good listening. Robert Brault Unknown
Hearing is listening to what is said. Listening is hearing what isn’t said. Simon Sinek Simon Sinek
Listen to a person when they look at you, not just when they’re talking to you. Rachel Wolchin Rachel Wolchin
Conversation can solve most problems
Love without conversation is impossible. Mortimer Adler
Lack of communication ruins everything because instead of knowing how the other person is feeling, we just assume. Unknown
In a relationship when communication starts to fade, everything else follows. Unknown
Communicate. Even when it’s uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is simply getting everything out. Unknown
Communicate more. Conversation can solve most problems. Unknown
It is not distance that keeps people apart but lack of communication. Unknown
Never be afraid to say what you feel. Unknown
Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity. Nat Turner
You know what is beautiful? A real conversation. Unknown(I just love this quote. What are your feelings about it? Let me know in the comment section below!)
Communication is a big reason why relationships don’t last. Nowadays people think it’s easier to walkout rather than talk it out. Unknown
Learn empathy everyday
Em•pa•thy – the ability to share someone else’s feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in that person’s situation.
You never understand a person until you consider things from his point of view. Harper Lee
We use words to understand each other and even, sometimes to find each other. Jose Saramago
Empathy is about finding echoes of another person in yourself. Mohsin Hamid
The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy. Meryl Streep
One doesn’t have to operate with great malice to do great harm. The absence of empathy and understanding are sufficient. Charles M. Blow
The opposite of anger is not calmness, it’s empathy. Mehmet Oz
I think we all have empathy. We may not have enough courage to display it. Maya Angelou
If we share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive. Brené Brown
When you show deep empathy towards others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems. Stephen Covey
Look for compromises with mutual respect
Compromise is not about losing. It is about deciding that the other person has just as much right to be happy with the end result as you do. Donna Martini
The best things to learn in life is the habit of compromise. Because it is better to bend a little than to break a loving relationship. Unknown
Love will ask you to step out of your comfort zone. It will ask for you to sacrifice and compromise; if you can’t do that, you’re not ready. Unknown
Compromise is the best and cheapest lawyer. Robert Louis Stevenson
Real love is not based on romance, candle light dinner and walks along the beach. In fact is based on respect, compromise, care and trust. Unknown
So, one has to try to find compromises with mutual respect, but also with a clear opinion. That’s politics – always looking to find a common way forward. Angela Merkel
It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, it’s compromise that moves us along. Unknown
Yes, love is all about sacrifice and compromise, but it’s important also to establish a limit. You shouldn’t have to throw your whole life away to make a relationship work. If you have to lose yourself to please your partner, you’re with the wrong person. Beau Taplin
Not being able to show your real self to your partner is the worst form of compromise. Abraham Hicks
When you are willing to compromise and make sacrifices for someone, that’s where you feel true love. Unknown
I am that kind of person who doesn’t speak much but I could listen to you for hours. I’ve learned the hard way that speaking is just as much important as listening and telling someone how I feel doesn’t make me weak even if my thoughts may sound weird sometimes.
My favorite quote of this section is this one (click to scroll). Nothing is more beautiful than deep and inspiring conversation. And if you can experience it with someone you love it’s even more uplifting.Don’t let unspoken thoughts steal the peace from you. There is no distance between us that conversation and empathy could not overcome.
What are your thoughts about the importance of communication in a relationship? Please let me know in the comment section below!